As achieving persistent weight loss at a healthy level is what drives us to participate in this program, today I’ll give a few reflections on some needed basics.
You wouldn’t be here if the goal were easy. I haven’t found a participant here who hasn’t tried multiple ways to lose weight. Previous failures have been the rule.
Here’s something to consider: many wise persons, as a rule of thumb, consider us to be comprised of three parts, or ‘bodies,’ the physical one that we really want to slim down, our feeling body (which many of us experience as being alternately confused, hopeful, fearful, self-doubting, etc.), and our mental body. In this concept, these three parts don’t work well together (each works as it it were its own master), and each is almost completely controlled by previously-acquired habits.
So, the part of us that holds an intention to lose weight is our mind, and that intention just isn’t connected with our feelings and body. Sure, we feel great after the job is done and we’re slim and trim, but, believe me, that feeling that it’s for real is often fleeting. Too many report a lot of doubt that they can keep it up, that they can really preserve the change. How many times have your feelings, your fears and desires been the ‘enemy’ of your intentions, however good they are?
And our bodies? Yes, we sense the freedom, when we’re lighter, of getting up off the floor after playing with the dog or of accomplishment when that 5k run is over. Glowing physicality, it’s our birth right! That was something you never could have done before! But overall, our bodies’ gut desires won’t help us change long-programmed eating habits and sedentary ways. Quite the contrary, our bodies run on unconscious auto pilot.
So, what to do when we’re dealing with decades of programming and habit?
I’ll be talking about the feeding and watering of our healthy intention over several months.